Comments on: I Kissed Online Dating Goodbye

By: Bruce

Bruce — Wed, 19 May 2010 15:27:27 +0000

kim
i really was glad to read this blog and agree with u all the way…its great to see u using the pain of bad dating experiences to help others ….funny how God is able to open our eyes to see more clearly…im so glad that u are not searching for a man on-line anymore…who knows…..when u stop looking and find Jesus as your contentment what God will bring into your life…He is the Best Husband any of us could ever have that is for sure…

i have found that in my 13 years of being single that Jesus is a real Friend…the kind my soul longed for…He takes my tears when im lonely, sad, frustrated and bottles them….He always knows what i mean even when i dont say a word…i dont have to explain myself to Him heheh…He is my Greatest Treasure…and now that i do have a “boyfriend”….He is still my Greatest Treasure…cause my boyfriend doesnt always act the way i want him to or understand what i mean…or he even hurts my feelings…heheh….Jesus has never done that …..:))
so excited for u sis…miss u…love u….thank u for the card in the mail
love brooke

By: Amy Coffin

Amy Coffin — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 10:59:35 +0000

Hi Kim,
Interesting thoughts, but I’m going to have to challenge you on this one. What fun would a blog be with some disagreements? Not because you need to date online, but because in relation to trusting God to provide a partner there is nothing wrong with meeting someone online. Who we meet and how we meet is ultimately in God’s hands, however God has given us freedom to make choices about where we go and what we do. You could draw the line in this discussion all the way to the predestination vs. free will theological discussion. But I do not believe it is an either/or thing.

In Jane Austin’s time going to a ball or a dinner that your relatives invited you to, were some potential ways that you could met a potential spouse. For my grandparents it was high school. In our generation meeting online is a new possibility. For some it just doesn’t sound romantic enough, but perhaps that is because only a few romantic tales (such as “You’ve Got Mail”) have been told about couples who meet in this way. For many generations in many different cultures people did not and do not rely on serendipity to be the small flame that becomes a lasting love relationship. Try watching Bollywood movies! Of course online dating has some dangers as you’ve highlighted (such as premature/false intimacy), however other forms of courtship have other problems as well.

By: Katrina M.

Katrina M. — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 21:04:02 +0000

Excellent!
“And the grace of our Lord was exceedingly abundant, with faith and LOVE which are in Christ Jesus.” 1 Timothy 1:14

By: justin

justin — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 20:43:55 +0000

Nice article Kim. I never tried online dating but was always curious. No need for it no obviously since I’m married but definitely see your point. America is all about conveienance even down to dating. Speaking of serendepity, have you seen the movie?
Sorry… forgot to say great post – can’t wait to read your next one!

By: justin

justin — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 11:52:49 +0000

By: brooke

brooke — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 02:25:07 +0000

By: Kimberly Alexander

Kimberly Alexander — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:43:25 +0000

I got to know/dated my ex-husband via an archaic form of on-line dating. We got married 20 years ago and divorced 10 years ago. Enough said. Great blog, Kim.

By: Jennifer Coomer

Jennifer Coomer — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 19:32:25 +0000

Kim,
This is really fantastic. And you helped put some of my feelings/thoughts about on-line dating into words I hadn’t yet found. I just ended up frustrated and out $40-$50 (more than once…). And while I’ve gone to the weddings of friends who met their mate on-line…and that gave me hope…I guess it just wasn’t for me. And that is because I love serendipity waaaaaaaaay to much. And really do want God to be the author of my love story. Thanks for helping me put it into words.

By: kirsten

kirsten — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 19:10:26 +0000

i had given up entirely. i had tried it all and had met my fair share of unsavory (that’s as polite a word as i can possibly use) dates. i was continually hurt and repeatedly faced with disappointment, and still the longing would not abate. but i stopped seeking it. i gave up on dating and on romance, and sought after God with every fiber of my being.

i really, truly, and in the depths of my heart gave up. and then about a year later (loooooong story being made short here) i accepted a friend request on facebook from an acquaintance of mine from college (who i hadn’t seen or heard from in the 9 years since i had graduated) who only got on there because he had broken his neck in a farming accident and had all kinds of free time on his hands.

i’m leaving out a whole lot of detail that would more clearly delineate just how entirely impossible this all was, but two months later we were in love and 2-1/2 weeks after that we were engaged. from facebook friend acceptance to wedding date was about six months. taking into consideration the whole and the breadth of our stories, it was really and truly something only God could have done. it gives us such confidence and hope. married 3 months now, we still look at each other completely baffled sometimes & wonder how in the world it all happened. the short answer is that God did it. and perhaps that is the truest answer, after all.